Your Love and Affection

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.

The Value of Time

To realize the value of a sister
Ask someone who doesn't have one.

To realize the value of ten years:
Ask a newly divorced couple.

To realize the value of four years:
Ask a graduate.

To realize the value of one year:
Ask a student who has failed a final Exam.

To realize the value of nine months:
Ask a mother who gave birth to a stillborn.

To realize the value of one month:
Ask a mother who has given birth To a premature baby.

To realize the value of one week:
Ask an editor of a weekly newspaper.

To realize the value of one minute:
Ask a person who has missed the train, bus or plane.

To realize the value of one-second:
Ask a person who has survived an accident.

To realize the value of a friend or family member:
LOSE ONE

Treasure every moment you have.

You Will treasure it even more when
You can share it with someone special.

Time waits for no one.

Value Life

Accept Changes Gracefully

Change in the only constant thing in our universe. To live perfect days, get rid of your attachment with things (my home, my car, my laptop, my idea etc.), situations (at home, work, financial, emotional) and people (parents, children, friends, spouses) –– love them just like you love everyone else. Attachment doesn’t let you move out of your comfort zone and your growth becomes ZERO. It costs you your happiness.

To Criticize Others

Self-respect means that you consider it inappropriate to criticize others. You consider it cowardly to feel threatened by someone else. You view everyone as responsible for their own behavior.

You Will You Be In 2011

I Lift Myself Up

Everyday I lift myself up and go! Consciously I drum up all my Positive energy and thoughts and carry on. I move forward gracefully, freely and lightly with my life, work, visions, creations, goals and dreams. I depend on Me, my own determination, self-motivation and self-love. I am my own Rock. I am my own Power. I am IT. Obstacles are the challenges that make me stronger and wiser.

Be A Winner

If you believe in yourself and have dedication and pride –– and never quit, you’ll be a winner. The price of victory is high but so are the rewards.

Carve My Name

I carve my name in people’s hearts by trying my best to make this earth a better place by being unforgettable
before I leave to the womb of the earth.

Never to Look Back

Make it a rule of life never to regret and never to look back. Regret is an appalling waste of energy; you can’t build on it; it’s only for wallowing in.

Katherine Mansfield

The Heart

Remember eyes may provide sight. But it’s the heart which gives insight to enjoy.

Indentify Fear

The moment you identify fear creeping into your mind, change your internal dialogue to reverse the thought and put a positive spin to it.

These phrases could form your simple tag line when a "what if" creeps into your mind: "I'll handle it" or "I'll figure it out".

Once you resolve to "handle it" or "figure it out", more often than not, you will find ways to deal with the situation, and your fear of the situation.

Reclaiming Your True Identity Self Help Film

Today I will commit myself to detachment. I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems. I will participate in everything with detached involvement.

You Are Valuable

Your soul is an eternal source of life-giving light. It shines with a meaning and purpose that you may not be aware of. In fact, your value is so profound, it’s impossible in this earthly mind to really understand the extent of your amazing worth. Open to this truth, and affirm the following: I am valuable; I am eternally valuable. In every experience, I choose to see, know, and honor how truly valuable I am.

Feel Sorry for Yourself

Look around you before you start to feel sorry for yourself –– there are people in situations that are a hundred times worse than yours, yet they manage to get through each day.

The good you find in others, is in you too.

December

One of the special joys of December is telling others we care and remember Love.

Mistakes of Others

Learn from the mistakes of others. There's an old Zen proverb that states: "It takes a wise man to learn from his mistakes, but an even wiser man to learn from others."

Lessons

Life is about developing and changing to meet the different circumstances that are presented on a daily basis. Learning from the lessons that have created pain and then being able to recognize when the same situation or circumstance arises again is valuable to our own development of becoming and a better person.

Suffering and Effort

Who will tell whether one happy moment of love or the joy of breathing or walking on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air, is not worth all the suffering and effort which life implies.

People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that they can do things. When they believe in themselves they have the first secret of success.

Norman Vincent Peale

Create Something

The majority manage to do nothing when they have something. Yet very few create something, when they have nothing.

Work Toward Loving Yourself

Recognize what you can change and what you can't. If you realize that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, then start today. If it's something you can't change, then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.

Self Confidence

Knowing which way to turn gives you self confidence. Taking a chance and going the opposite way gives you a chance to see what you are made of.

Who You Become

The content of your character is your choice. Day by day, what you choose, what you think and what you do is who you become.

Heraclitus

Don't Expect Change to Be Easy

No one ever promised that making a big change in your life would be easy or that overcoming obstacles would be a walk in the park. It's not supposed to be. Don't let opposition let you lose your confidence and adapt a negative attitude.

Only Use Positive Words When Talking

If you're constantly telling yourself "I can't" you may convince yourself that's the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead.

Lifestyle

Managing depression means total self-care. If you neglect to take care of yourself once you begin to feel better, you will likely begin to re-experience some symptoms of depression. Emotional health, as well as physical health, is about lifestyle.

Be Strong

Be strong enough to at least try to make your life better.

Be Optomistic

Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.

In Your Heart

A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and sings it back to you when you have forgotten how it goes.

Your Life

Never blame any day in your life. Good days give you happiness, Bad days give you experience. Worst days give you a lesson. Have a good morning and great day ahead.

Love Your Life

Love your life. Believe in your own power, your own potential, and your own innate goodness. Every morning, wake with the awe of just being alive. Each day, discover the magnificent awesome beauty in the world. Explore and embrace life in yourself and in everyone you see each day.

Power to Take Control

Each person has the power to take control of every circumstance in life to change, improve, and make it better day by day. Not one of us can say: “I must accept whatever comes my way,” because the way we choose to go through life is our decision. The power of change is always in your hands.

Barbara J. Hall

Energy Flows

Energy Flows Where Energy Goes!

Hope

The inability to open up to hope is what blocks trust, and blocked trust is the reason for blighted dreams.

Elizabeth Gilbert

Energy Comes Naturally

Energy is the one thing that at times we all feel we need more of. What most people find is that when they are doing what they love that the energy comes naturally. When you have a passion for what you are doing you will find energy is something that you have lots of.

Tragedy of Life

The tragedy of life is not in the fact of death, but in what dies inside of us while we live.

Norman Cousins

Make Your Life Better

Determine how your life could be better. What can you do to make your life better? What do you desire to do? How do you want to feel? Make a few reachable goals and your own strategies. The first step is usually the hardest - getting help or admitting you need it.

Importance

Money, position, pride and power seem so important——until they’re not. At the end of their lives no one says, I wish I spent more time at the office.

Courtesy

Never underestimate the power of simple courtesy. Your courtesy may not be returned or remembered, but discourtesy will.

You Are Unique and Special

Realize that you are unique and special and that you have a higher purpose in life. You are not an accident. You are here for a reason and part of your mission is to find out why you are here.

A Circle on a Piece of Paper

Robert Schuller (best known for Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do!) tells the story of a professor who made a circle on a piece of paper, colored it black, and then asked his psychology students what they saw. The answers were many: A black dot; A round circle and it's dark; A round circle colored solid black. Finally the professor asked: "Doesn't anybody see a piece of white paper?" Most of the people you work with and live with are negative people, looking at the faults, points out Schuller. In this search for negatives, "they miss everything that's positive and great".

Love What You Do

Love what you do - doing what you love is only one half of the story. You still have to love what you do and this is an attitude. Even if you are doing something you hate, you can still love doing it and once you do this you start to shift the focus of your life and more of what you do love will start showing up.

Keep Growing

Keep growing and expanding - without continual growth and the expansion of yourself you will soon get bored and start 'hating what you do'. Personal growth is an essential ingredient in being fulfilled.

Obstacles Tests

Fighting your way through obstacles tests your resolve and prepares you for the new reality you want to create in your life. The old saying is "be careful what you wish for". Obstacles can be a blessing in disguise by acting as a natural form of resistance to keep your life in balance. Without it, you might hurtle at light speed into the things you want.

Challenges help you grow your knowledge, skills, experience and resources.

Blocks make it necessary to reposition yourself for a new start, in the same way that runners use blocks before they start a race.

Bars help you stretch and become more flexible, just like the way a dancer uses a barre.

Hurdles require you to gain momentum so you can leap over them.

Impediments help you slow down and exercise caution in choosing your next steps.

Walls make you look around for a ladder or an overhanging tree you can climb. Or they can inspire you to build an earthen ramp so everyone can climb over them.

Vices put the pressure on and test whether we are strong enough to handle the consequences.

Ability to Love

Allow yourself to be loved. The ability to love and be loved is the most basic human trait. We, as a society, have become disconnected from this most basic need - fear-based emotions (depression, loneliness, guilt, attachment and anger are the symptoms). Finding ways to reconnect with others is extremely helpful in developing a positive attitude.

Acknowledge Every Strength

Challenging yourself means you dare to acknowledge every strength and weakness. You have to be ready to change them into power and strength. Dare to challenge yourself means you have entered the world of the highest commitment in the process to achieve your own victory.

A Blessing in Disguise

Every misfortune is a blessing in disguise, so it is wise to turn any misfortune into something good and useful.

A Child

You should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed it.

Positive Relationships

Evaluating Relationships: Given the tremendous importance of relationships, it’s surprising we receive so little instruction on how to evaluate, prune, and nurture them. Start by asking yourself whether each of your relationships drags you down or lifts you up. Surrounding yourself with positive relationships is half the battle.

Understand People

Instead of condemning people, try to understand them. Try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.

Energy Flows

Where attention goes, energy flows. What we focus on tends to expand itself. Since we can only focus on one thing at a time, energy spent on negativity is energy that could have been spent on our personal well being.

Shift Your Perspective

Instead of continually apologizing for whatever it is that you do or however it is that you are that you believe is "off" or lacking, stop. Shift your perspective of your own self and your abilities. Figure out what you like to do and the way that you can best do it. Then, deliberately place yourself in situations that are a good match for who you are.

Self Trash Talk

Negative inner talk - self trash talk - is mostly a habit. Unfortunately, we're accustomed to trashing ourselves. Once you realize that negative inner talk is habit talk, you become self-aware of your thinking and you can make a new choice. Every time you make the choice to replace negative with inner Love talk, you are establishing a new habit of loving yourself.

Opening Your Eyes

If you walked through your day with eyes wide open looking for the beauty in the day, what do you think you would see? Perhaps you’d see more smiles than frowns, more happiness, than sadness, and you might even see the potential in others rather than limits. By opening your eyes to goodness in the day.

Take Charge

By releasing the need to blame family, friends, bosses, coworkers, x’s, the weather, or the economy for your mood, you are empowered to create the day of your dreams. When you take charge of your mood, it doesn’t matter what company you keep as your company is the key to setting your mood.

Inspiring Ballet - Hand in Hand

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

Buddha

Change Your Energy and Change Your Life

The Long View

Take the long view about incidents that you're finding stressful. Just because you're finding these new responsibilities stressful now, doesn't mean that they will ALWAYS be so for you in the future.

Learn Valuable Information

Use reframing to stop thinking of your mistakes as failures. They can be more accurately described as opportunities for learning—people generally learn more from mistakes than they learn from successes. With each mistake, you can learn valuable information that can be used for future success.

Give Children

Sometimes in our attempt to give children what we did not have, we forget to give our children what we did have.

Your Desires

Focus more on your desire than on your doubt, and the dream will take care of itself. You may be surprised at how easily this happens. Your doubts are not as powerful as your desires, unless you make them so.

Your Judging Mind

Take a moment to become aware of your judging mind. Already you will have formed an opinion of many things, like this posting for instance. But more important are your judgments on people.

Knowing Yourself

Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength, mastering yourself is true power.

Lao Tzu (c.604 - 531 B.C.)

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Dreams Come True

Dream all you can and all you want to. For only those who have dreams can have their dreams come true. Reach out toward your dreams and walk toward them. For only those who act on their dreams can have their dreams come true.

A Successful Relationship

There is no correct formula for a successful relationship. Because being successful over here is not a one time thing. We will always be learners, will always be in process of making relationships better and better. For even if we arrive at a stage where we find relationship between two people perfect, impossible to find a flaw in; the very next moment we will find one of them or perhaps both of them changing and if people are not the same, then where does perfection in their relationship come from?

Love the moment and the energy of the moment will spread beyond all boundaries.

Smile

The next time someone says they don't like how you are.... Smile, and realize you can accept and appreciate this person as they are, no matter what they think, and know that you don't have to take the low road.

Be An Inspiration

Be an inspiration. Whether you're a parent, teacher, coach, athlete, artist, or anything else, do what you do best. People you have never met and never will meet are watching you perform. It is up to you to meet their expectations and show them the right way through example.

Negative Opinions

Whatever you think you may do, it’s half of what you can really do. And that’s because you have so many negative opinions about yourself. You can solve them. Just accept the fact that you have them and then start working on them.

Self-Talk

Positive and encouraging self-talk will contribute to inner strength and self-respect, which will drastically alter the way you see yourself and your potential in life.

Courage

Courage is being responsible for your own actions and admitting your own mistakes without placing blame on others. It's relying not on others for your success, but on your own skills and efforts.

A Dream is a Blueprint

Motivation is a positive starting point, and action places you on a forward path. A dream is a blueprint of a goal not yet achieved; the only difference between the two is the effort involved in attaining what you hope to accomplish.

Make the Right Choice

Observe yourself and even judge yourself what you are doing. Are you following people or are you following your own instinct and become strong and feel empowered because you made the right choice.

Life Changes from a Obligation

Make a decision and connect with that decision as much as possible. You can do that by writing things down. And then the most important part is to choose to take action. Not taking action is also a choice. You don’t have to do anything. Every action or no-action has consequences. Exercising our will gives us the power and the freedom to choose where we are in life and what we will do. That is when life changes from an obligation to a blessed opportunity.

The Key

The key to getting what you want is letting people know what you want and also being willing to be a giver. If you are willing to give in order to receive, you will always be on the receiving end of getting what you want. And in the best interest of time, once you realize that the other person is not capable of giving you what you want or if you find out that they are unwilling to give it to you, move on to the person who will give it to you.

Happy Thanksgiving

On this Thanksgiving Day, I wish to say that I am honored to have you in my life.

Your Attitude

Choose your attitude every morning. It’s kind of liberating and empowering to know that a good or bad day is completely in our control and that while the happenings in our world might influence us, they don’t need to determine us.

Learn to Adjust

Learn to adjust your thought process. Circumstances change, so do moods, feelings, impressions, ideas and people!

World Directed by Feelings

We live in a world directed by feelings of people towards each other. ‘Selfish interests’ have become so prominent in our lives that our every action is filled by it. There are many who practice a very limited compassion for others. In their quest of growing, they overlook the ethics. Wise men tell us that "money can get us everything but a character” –– some things are so true and they remain so as long as we live.

And that teaches me a lesson –– forgive, forget and move on. There are so many things happening around –– people dying of hunger, countries are at risk of getting drowned, earthquakes rattling homes, children getting born on streets and what not. It just takes a second to change your feelings from annoyance to gratitude –– and thank the Universe, I am good in this.

Takers of Negativity

We have become takers of negativity, ego, anger, frustration and waste. This needs to be changed. The thinking has to become positive. With the power of positivity, we refuse to give up. Remember, though situations don’t last but tough people do.

Painting by Ririn
http://www.rainririnarts.com/

Trying to Please Everyone

Trying to Please Everyone: I like this quote by Colin Powell, which says "Trying to get everyone to like you is a sign of mediocrity". You’re never going to be able to control what others think, so don’t spend too much time sweating over it and stress yourself. Instead, work on the things you have control over –– yourself, your emotions, your thoughts, your actions and feel happy about it. Spend your energy in the creation process, and on people who do deserve your attention and love. Try it for a week –– You’ll find it’s a lot more rewarding this way.

Seven Great Questions for Everyday

1. Why?

2. What did I learn?

3. How can I help?

4. What if?

5. How can this be improved?

6. How can I show my gratitude?

7. What is the best use of my time now?

No Boundaries or Classes

There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.

Positive Language Skills

You can use positive language skills to exhibit yourself as a helpful, constructive person rather than a destructive, disinterested one. Positive body language involves the act of maintaining eye contact while speaking, using hand gestures to accentuate important points, leaning in closer while someone else is speaking, smiling, and mirroring the person you’re involved in a conversation with.

How Are Beliefs Formed?

- Childhood Imprints. The imprint stage is usually up to 7 years of age. Major events can affect your view of the world.

- The environment in which you grew up. Your parents, your school and the community that you are exposed to play a part in shaping your belief system. How you encounter difficulties now is largely determined by the stories that you have been told as a child.

- Modelling. You may unconsciously take on the beliefs of someone you deeply admire. If the model in your life says so, then it must be so.

- Significant Experiences. You may go through certain life-altering experiences that shape your beliefs. If the experiences turn out to be triumphs, you are likely to believe that anything is possible. If the experiences are horrid ones and your attitude is negative, you are likely to adopt a lot of disempowering thoughts and fears.

Create the Light of Your Life

It doesn't matter for how long the room has been dark;

For a day, or a week, or a year, or for ten thousand years.

The moment you bring in a candle; darkness vanishes like it was never there.

Similarly, it doesn't matter for how long we are stuck in a sense of our limitations.

The moment you decide to break free, nothing will stop you.

Create the light of your life.

Each Failure

Our society is so caught up in winning, we forget that most of the great men and women in history have, at one time or another, failed at something. Often repeatedly, and discouragingly. But each failure is nothing more than a brick in the wall that forms the foundation of our success. We can't forget that.


Carlton Young

The Greatest Suffering

Material suffering is suffering from hunger, homelessness, and diseases. Still, I think the greatest suffering is being lonely, feeling unloved, having no one.

Stop, Sit and Tell

Often, when a person is upset or stressed about something, they begin to panic. The mind and the body begin to race. Simply taking a moment to stop, sit, and tell yourself that things will be ok can give you the calm you need to get through.

Philosophy is Kindness

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.

Dalai Lama

Thank the Universe

No matter how you thank the universe, be it through prayer or simply acknowledging the beauty of the natural world, take a moment to acknowledge your appreciation every day.

Believe About Ourselves

What we believe about ourselves together with we hear others say about us and whether or not we accept their opinions –– our worthiness or value as a person.

Focus On Being Happy

Our thinking directly affects our bodies and how it functions. Negative thinking makes the whole body weak and fragile. All that stress, worrying, and nonsense thinking leads to headaches, sleeping disorders, muscle tensions, anxiety, and fatigue. So push the problems aside and just focuses on being happy.

Positive and Uplifting Words

One of the biggest barriers to building self esteem is constant negative thoughts about yourself and your abilities. Speak positive and uplifting words to yourself. Do it when you are alone, speak them out loud. When others might hear, it is quite alright to speak to yourself in your mind

Present for the Miracle

Be present for the miracle found in every moment.

Thoughts Can Be Changed

It’s really a waste of time, thinking “why me”. I’ve wasted enough brain bytes, going over this question like a mantra and yet, this questioning has not helped me one bit. So my first suggestion is to stop the victim mentality.

When you ask yourself “why me”, you are intending to say that you do not deserve what life has handed out to you. However, from what we know from the Law of Attraction or metaphysics, you cannot be a true victim because you have attracted a negative outcome into your physical reality somehow.

Fortunately, thoughts can be changed, to effect new changes. As you become more positive in your thoughts, you are sending out energy vibrations that match more desirable outcomes. The Universe responds by delivering what you have intended to you.

“Humans think they are asking with their words, or even with their action, and sometimes you are, but the Universe is not responding to our words or your action. The Universe is responding to your vibrational calling”

Opportunities

A great attitude does much more than turn on the lights in our worlds; it seems to magically connect us to all sorts of serendipitous opportunities that were somehow absent before the change.

Earl Nightingale

Think Positively

Thinking in a positive manner, in return, attracts positive things. When you think positively, you become a brighter, cheerful person. People around you sense your positivity and, usually, return it to you. It is contagious.

The Situation is Not Forever

Understand that the situation is not forever. Even if you're dealing with the grief of a lost loved one, remember that in time you will feel better. You may always feel sad about a loss, but it will only get easier as time goes on. Take it day by day and keep in mind the transience of any bad situation.

Be Gentle with Yourself

Here is the exercise: Say this over and over to yourself."Be gentle with yourself. Be gentle with yourself. Be gentle with yourself." At the same time do the shoulder drop and back release. My friend has shared this phrase with many others who have used it to escape from their own anguish and despair. It is not simply the idea of the phrase that works, however. It is the use of the phrase; the thinking of the phrase instead of the thinking of the despair. The mind is very much like a frightened child at times like this. We need to tell the mind that it is not necessary to beat itself up. The mind doesn’t know this unless we tell it.

A Tiny Problem

Don't let a tiny problem escalate into disaster. Immediately stop the downward spiral by injecting some positivity into the situation. Do something small that you know will succeed - such as a small specific task that you’ve done many times and that you know are not going to fail at - this can be anything from making a cup of tea, writing an email or tidying a file. Let this sense of achievement boost you to take another, bigger step to success.

Key Thoughts

Keep a daily thought diary. In it, note down key thoughts, with the circumstances that created them. For example, if you felt irritated at work, think about why and make a note of it. Think about your emotional reaction. It should help you learn which situations provoke a negative or positive reaction. Regularly re-read your diary to trace your thought patterns and gauge whether you are becoming more positive.